The 4 M's of motivation
The 4 M’s of motivation
Also known as materialism, it’s when you are motivated by the luxuries, the fancy car, the designer clothes and the big bank balance. Most people are attracted to money, maybe because they didn’t have any when they was younger, they looked up to the basketball players with the Lamborghini’s and diamond watches. Now before you think that this is something you don’t want to be associated with because you’re not materialistic remember that there is nothing wrong with this being a driving force in your life.
If you want to help more people you need more money.
Having that freedom of choice in your life is what keeps you going.
You are recognized for countless achievements and wherever you go others know that you’re there.
Craving the spotlight is a motivating factor for many people.
Which M motivates you?
Jealousy is key
- Money: Do you ever speak to someone who is richer than you and think I wish I had that money or that car and you start to get a bit envious of the person more than most people are, if so you’re probably money motivated.
- Mating: Do you ever look at someone’s photo with their partner and roll your eyes and think they’re so soppy but really you’re just a tad bit jealous of them. There’s studies that show that when women are around, men’s testosterone levels increase, Napoleon Hill wrote about the effects of women in his book think and grow rich.
- Mastery: This is your motive if you’re predominantly concerned with being respected and certainly not disrespected. It’s about status, you see that “alpha male“ walk in to the club with all of his boys, getting all the attention and you think what a duchebag, he may well be a duchebag but you wish you was that popular, you wish people listened to you more, you have so much more to give.
- Momentum: This about freedom, the people who can say no whilst you’re stuck in your 9-5 you get jealous of the people who can do what you can’t because they’re not set to the limits and boundaries you are. They do what they want when they want and you’re jealous because you’re still taking orders from your boss. They might even be offered money but would rather have the free time. It’s a bit like Tim Ferris’s principles in the four hour work week.
What are the steps to get motivated?
- Develop self awareness: When someone asks you what’s the motive, you should now be able to answer. Do not judge yourself, if what motivates you to go to the gym is to get more attention of girls than so be it, being true to your nature and not judging it will motivate you more.
- Pain and gain: With my own experiences and thinking about it on a deeper level, I believe these motivations often come from pain or lack of, think about it, did your motive come from not having it in the first place? Let’s go through some examples. According to Gary Vee, being an immigrant Is a huge advantage. When you come from another country you have to learn to hustle. When mark Cuban was younger and was broke, he used to drive past other people’s mansions and say I’m going to be like that I’m going to have one of them. Mark Cuban also started a TV program that competed with the American apprentice which is Donald Trump’s show and it failed and supposedly Trump wrote him a sarcastic letter, most people would say just ignore it but what Mark did was frame it and leave it on his desk so he saw it every morning, he used his failure and envy of someone disrespecting him (mastery) as a motivator and then he made shark tank and when the apprentice’s viewing’s was on the decline he wrote Trump a funny letter back asking him how it was going, he never got a reply! You might have a chip on your shoulder and feel like you’ve got to prove something to the world. You might have been small or overweight as a kid so become a body builder. Use your pain to gain!
- Affirmations: Even though I’m not really poor and my motive isn’t materialistic, whenever I used to see a range rover I used to say “one day, one day“ you’ve got to give yourself positive self talk and really believe it. Before you do this you’ve got to stop the negative self talk, I don’t know if it’s a British thing or just a human thing because we all do it.
- 4.Discipline is king: Motivation is more like an emotion, it comes and it goes, take this for an example, have you ever watched a motivational film or video and you feel so pumped that you could conquer the world with your newly learnt karate moves but then the next day you’re struggling to get out of bed? It’s because motivation comes and goes, so what can you do when you can’t rely on motivation? Learn to have self discipline! The word discipline might be scary at first because of your memories at school but it’s okay, you only need it until you form a habit which you can learn about by clicking here. Do you really need discipline to brush your teeth. I’ll leave you with this quote. “we are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle