Keys to confidence
Have you been struggling to socialise due to low confidence? Are you becoming the beta in your social circle?
Confident people tend to work more happily, and are unafraid to chase their dreams or take on new challenges. Here are ten tips you can use at work or anywhere to boost confidence in yourself!
1. Visualize yourself as you want to be.
“What the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve.” - Napoleon Hill Visualization is the technique of seeing an image of yourself or what you want in your own mind. Practice visualizing to see where you want to be and ultimately help you achieve your goals.
2. Affirm yourself.
We tend to behave in accordance with our own self-image. The trick to making lasting change is to change how you view yourself. Affirmations are positive and uplifting statements that we say to ourselves. These are normally more effective if said out loud so that you can hear yourself say it. We tend to believe whatever we tell ourselves constantly. For example, if you hate your own physical appearance, practice saying something that you appreciate or like about yourself when you next look in the mirror or you could say I can do this! Before taking on a challenge. I will be explaining self affirmation in another blog to elaborate.
3. Do one thing that scares you every day.
See the thing is, the more you hide away from your fears the stronger they get! As the saying goes Fear everything and run or Face Everything And Rise! The best way to overcome fear is to face it head-on. By doing something that scares you every day and gaining confidence from every experience, you will see your self-confidence soar. So, get out of your comfort zone and face your fears!
4. Question your inner critic.
Some of the harshest comments that we receive are the ones made by ourselves, via the "voice of the inner critic." If you struggle with low self-confidence, there is a possibility that your inner critic has become overactive and inaccurate. Strategies like cognitive behavioral therapy help you to question your inner critic, and look for evidence to support or deny the things that your inner critic is saying to you. For example, if you think that you are a failure, ask yourself, “What evidence is there to support the thought that I am a failure?” and “What evidence is there that doesn’t support the thought that I am a failure?” Find opportunities to congratulate, compliment and reward yourself, even for the smallest successes. This can be so beneficial as you slowly build self love. We'll be teaching CBT soon so stay plugged in!
5. Take the 100 days of rejection challenge.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” - Eleanor Roosevelt Jia Jiang has become famous for recording his experience of “busting fear” by purposefully making crazy requests of people in order to be rejected over 100 days. His purpose was to desensitize himself to rejection, after he became more upset than he expected over rejection from a potential investor. Busting fear isn’t easy to do, but if you want to have fun while building up your self-confidence, this is a powerful way to do it for sure!
6. Set yourself up to win.
Too many people are discouraged about their abilities because they set themselves goals that are too difficult to achieve, so what you can do is a technique I like to call the snowball effect so Start by setting yourself small goals that you can win easily. Once you have built a stream of successes that make you feel good about yourself, you can then move on to harder goals. Don’t move to quick though as you might spiral out of control with the snowball. Make sure that you also keep a list of all your achievements, both large and small, to remind yourself of the times that you have done well. This will help with step no.4
7. Help someone else.
Helping someone else often enables us to forget about ourselves and to feel grateful for what we have. It also feels good when you are able to make a difference for someone else. Instead of focusing on your own weaknesses, volunteer to mentor, practically assist or teach another, and you'll see your self-confidence grow automatically in the process.
8. Care for yourself.
“Self-care is never a selfish act - it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.” - Parker Palmer This was a hard one for me as I was always the person trying to help others but when I realised that I had to look after myself first before giving to others I realised I was more beneficial and appreciated because of it. Self-confidence depends on a combination of good physical health, emotional health and social health. It is hard to feel good about yourself if you hate your physique or constantly have low energy. Make time to cultivate great exercise, eating and sleep habits. In addition, dress the way you want to feel. You have heard the saying “dress how you want to be addressed” Build your self-confidence by making the effort to look after your own needs. Always remember you can't pour from an empty glass
9. Create personal boundaries.
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.” - Harvey Fierstein Learn to say no. Teach others to respect your personal boundaries. If necessary, take classes on how to be more assertive and learn to ask for what you want. The more control that you have over your own life, the greater it will be. At the end of the day your the one that is living your life so if someone is bringing you down, whether that be family friends or anyone no matter how hard it is bring yourself out of the situation. Learn how to say no.
“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” -- Marilyn Monroe People with low self-confidence see others as better or more deserving than themselves. Instead of carrying this perception, see yourself as being equal to everyone. They are no better or more deserving than you. Make a mental shift to an equality mentality and you will automatically see an improvement in your self-confidence
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